Alright,
This is kind of hard to explain but i do have it uploaded on YouTube to see for yourself....
so here the problem:
When going into crafting bench i try to craft the easiest item (treetap) and it will not allow me to like it has it in the output square of the workbench but will not let me click it into my inventory and when i spawn a item from industrial craft then go in my inventory and try to click it, it disappears, i do not know also it will not let me place blocks and have not seen any of the ores around... so please i have installed it 2 times on client and server so please help if not make a tutorial for me... 
YOUTUBE VIDEO:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OouULjFo1BQ