Factors that make the mod worth including
1. What most people want (voting column)
2. Trying to particular individuals happy with the content
3. Reward for contributing to the modpack
Factors that make the mod worth excluding (these typically take precedence)
4. Mod stability
5. breaks gameplay (exploits, OPness)
6. Doesn't fit with the rest
I'm not a fan of democracy personally because the minority has no voice. Therefore I'm compensating for that with 2. Granted that the voice of one person is going to be of less weight than the voice of two, but in a democracy it has no weight. If your wants are always contrasting with the rest, then you always going to lose no matter what. I don't think that is fair. If there are 3 people voting then you should at least have your way 1 time out of 3 (assuming they are of equal importance to each) according to a truly representative government and not two wolves and a sheep voting for what's for dinner.
That said TC, Steve carts and IHL were included more based on 2 amd 3 than 1.
I particularly liked keda's articulated and thoughtful reply from yesterday. Part of that reply should shed some light on one or two mods being discussed. Quoted above.
For the record, I don't like that there are so many deco mods in the pack (doors mod?!?!), nor do I like forge multiparts. I am still scratching my head (from the last kirara onwards) on why TC is adamantly staying on this pack. People with Net connection issues (e.g., me) won't find use or utility with mods like better records... I can go on, but like Pyrolusite said, I won't be playing on the server, so I am not personally invested in which mods make it in, or out of this pack, despite my own personal misgivings on them. I also do not have the liberty of time IRL, to debate for extended periods of time on any of these mods/topics.
But as someone who knows them well, and as their well wisher, I wish keda and Airam, all the luck in the world for the task they've set themselves against.
EDIT: Thanks also to greg, for sharing your thoughts on forge multiparts and other deco mods in the last two pages.