Here's the great thing about the situation: Most of her material is module.. Meaning that you aren't 'required' to actually install these aspects into RP2 to enjoy. However, that neither helps nor solves the problem, and if you become dependent on said features (aka: Frames), then this problem becomes even more of a hassle..
Personally, I think she's being too much of a bitch about the issue (pun intended), yet she is allowed to do this. However, that doesn't mean that I'm not going to outsource those types of features from other mods, and circumvent her influence in my game play. Currently, I don't use Silver for anything RP related. Hell, I would even bother farming for the ore if it wasn't for the fact that you can use it in both Thaumcraft and IC. Eloraam will, either one way or another, have to come to terms with the fact that her mod design WILL be altered heavily as long as she continues with this compatibility with the Forge API system...
That is, ofc, if she doesn't go the way of Flowerchild with mod design...