The fanfic remark was made in jest. As you can see from the rest of my post, I am on your side.
I understand and appreciate that - just wanted to address it in case other people consider it to have any serious validity.
Eloraam has proven herself to be the type of person that has an extremely one-sided view of cooperation. She has implemented her own version of central concepts of other mods, but is completely unwilling to allow someone else to even look at her code to see how it works.
The difference is, she did it her own way - she didn't decompile someone else's work in direct violation of their license.
As for "cooperation", I don't recall her asking for any of it with her mod. She's already stated that she intends to make a mod that has what she wants to see and what she wants to play. She works alone because she doesn't want design by committe - and this way she doesn't have to feel like she needs to make compromises or accommodate what others want from her vision.
Silence will never change anything. Change needs a voice, even if it starts with only one.
Regrettably, your voice will not be that voice of change. You think too highly of your ability to persuade others. You lack true conviction - perhaps because you unconsciously realize that you don't actually believe the things you say. That is why it is hard for you to even convince us here. Add in the fact that you have not and will not speak to the person whom you claim to wish to change... all I see is a lot of empty, meaningless, and pointless debate. It's no different now than it was a couple months ago.
You are not a crusader, you are not the Hero of the Proletariat, you are not the Sole Voice of Reason Against the Howling Mob. You'll never be able to fight for anyone's rights until you learn to stop trampling over everyone else's.