Ah I see all his usual ass kissing minions have posted, throwing there best insults great job!!
If you're insulted by statements like "not a programmer" and "relatively new [to this forum]", I have to wonder what you're doing on the Internet.
Now, as to your original post, I'm not really seeing it. I have a feeling you misunderstand the reason behind the "don't ask for estimates" rule. You see, historically, when estimates are provided and then not met, the result is a circlejerk of bitching about how "you said it would be done yesterday and it isn't". To head that off, it's simpler not to give estimates and not respond to people asking for estimates. And if the people asking for them do that too much... what do you think should happen to them?
As for "distressing", have you actually looked (and understood) what a hack the hotfix for IC2 1.90 on Minecraft 1.2.5 is? The latest Forge dropped ModLoaderMP compatibility in favor of their own internal system that handles mostly the same thing. The correct solution to bringing a mod like IC2 up to the latest Forge version would be to make it start using that internal system, and drop anything that smells of MLMP. This is not a simple operation, and the person who made the hotfix didn't bother -- that's why that version also requires ModLoaderMP, in spite of Forge not using it anymore.
Next, I'm not sure how the IC2 devs are failing to "take it serious[ly]". They have consistently updated and improved IC2 for as long as it's been available, they have recently released a version with some new mechanics I haven't had a chance to even look at, and ultimately, I get the feeling they're as tired as I am of the Minecraft version fuckery that's been happening lately. None of which points to any failure to take anything seriously, as far as I'm concerned.
Finally, I'm wondering if you realize how whiny you sound. Here you are, just one more person who uses IC2, but the devs should bow and scrape to your every whim? If you want insults, you should look in the mirror -- your posts suggest someone who actively and happily sabotages himself and then looks to the outside world for reasons why everything is going wrong. "How do they not see my genius?" you ask yourself. Well, I hate to break it to you, but you're hiding it behind bad grammar, lazy spelling and typing in general, and a whiny attitude of maximum entitlement. And I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming you have some genius in the first place.